Let’s be honest and say how it really is.

If he was a miserable old bugger and admits to the fact, why not honour his essence? Focus on the positive and all the things that person brought into your life. Nobody will want to listen for 10 minutes about all the medication he was on and all the falls and tumbles. Let us make the occasion really personal. If he liked a drink or had a dry sense of humour why not refer to it and even crack a few jokes that reflect his personality.